This past week, I had the absolute honour of speaking at the Mother’s Day Tea at Kloof Senior Primary School — and honestly, it was one of the most meaningful mornings I’ve had in a very long time.
Now, public speaking isn’t something completely new to me. I regularly speak on radio and have spent years in the media and digital marketing space, so you’d think I’d be completely comfortable by now.
But this felt different.
Being invited to speak as Mzansi Mama — to stand in front of a room full of mothers and share something so personal and heartfelt — genuinely made me feel incredibly special.
Because this wasn’t about business or marketing or social media.
This was about motherhood.
Community.
Kindness.
And the realities so many women quietly carry every single day.
A Room Full of Moms Who Just “Get It”
The morning was beautiful from start to finish.
I was completely spoilt with flowers and wine (which made everyone laugh because I don’t even drink 😂🍷), but more than anything, I just felt so warmly welcomed.
And sitting in a room filled with moms from all different walks of life, I realised something:
Most people may not know our individual stories… but mothers understand each other in a way that’s hard to explain.
Because motherhood stretches you.
Softens you.
Exhausts you.
Builds you.
And somehow, despite how hard it can be, moms still continue showing up every single day.
The Message I Wanted Every Mom to Hear
During my talk, I spoke about Mzansi Mama, the feeding scheme I run in the south of Durban, and the importance of kindness, empathy, and community.
One of the biggest things I’ve learned through motherhood is this:
You do not need to “have it all” to make a difference in someone’s life.
So many people think helping others has to be something massive or financial.
But kindness can look like:
- Cooking an extra plate of food
- Checking in on another mom
- Fetching someone’s child from school
- Passing on clothes your kids have outgrown
- Simply asking, “Are you okay?”
Small acts matter more than people realise.
From “No Village” to Building One
I also shared how Mzansi Mama started.
After having my second child, I struggled deeply with loneliness.
My family is either overseas or has passed away, and I remember hearing the phrase:
“It takes a village to raise a child.”
And thinking:
“But what happens if you don’t have a village?”
So many moms related when I shared that online.
Then messages started coming in from mothers asking where they could find meals because they were struggling financially.
For the longest time, I kept thinking:
“When I win the lotto… I’ll help people.”
Until one day I realised:
Why am I waiting?
So I started cooking meals for 20 people.
Today, that feeding scheme supports nearly 70 moms, children, and pensioners every single week.
And the most beautiful part?
It’s taught me that helping others often changes you just as much.
The Moment That Melted My Heart
One of the most emotional parts of the morning was sharing a special video I made featuring children from the feeding scheme talking about their moms and what mothers mean to them.
My own kids even made a little appearance 🥹
And honestly… hearing children describe their moms is enough to completely melt your heart.
The innocence.
The love.
The way children see us.
It’s such a powerful reminder that even when we feel exhausted, overwhelmed, or like we’re failing… our children still see safety, comfort, and love.
“You’re Doing Better Than You Think”
If there’s one thing I hope every mom took home from that morning, it’s this:
You are doing a better job than you think.
Even on the hard days.
Even on the messy days.
Even on the days nobody notices your effort.
What you do matters.
And in a world that can sometimes feel disconnected and heavy, I truly believe moms have the power to make it softer, kinder, and more compassionate.
So to every mom reading this:
Happy Mother’s Day 💛
Not just for one day — but for all the invisible, exhausting, beautiful work you do every single day.